Separating parents will often choose mediation because they recognise that despite the end of their relationship, they will still need to work together in the future as parents.
If other aspects of the separation are dealt with in a particularly combative way, this can spill over into how the parents manage the arrangements for their children. Mediation can help separating parents re-establish their relationship with one another as co-parents, and a key part of this is that mediation keeps parents communicating. A mediator can help the parents really hear and understand one another, and focus on finding practical solutions to the issues that a separation can bring.
Mediation is bespoke to the participants and their children. There is flexibility in working to their particular child’s needs or wants and an outcome is not going to be imposed by a third party who does not know the family.
If the parents want, the mediator can help record their intentions in a ‘Parenting Plan’ document. Research shows agreements reached in mediation last longer and works better than arrangements imposed by the courts.
Sorting out the finances on separation - how mediation can help
Most people do not want to have a lengthy, costly and stressful battle through the courts to sort out their financial arrangements when a relationship breaks down. Separation can be difficult enough, without having to navigate a court process which unfortunately can be littered with delay and inefficiencies.
Mediation provides a forum for those separating to discuss and agree on the way finances and/or property is to be divided between them. Participants can raise issues which are important to them, rather than having to focus on what is important to a judge. Imaginative, personalised and flexible solutions can be explored.
There can be many benefits to dealing with matters in this way, including:
- A reduction in stress levels.
- Collaborative problem solving, as both participants are working together to find solutions.
- Faster turnaround, as the timetable for progress, can be set for the participants.
- Less expensive than going to court can incur.
- As the participants are to both agree on the financial arrangements, they are more likely to keep to them.
If you, or someone you know, might benefit from considering mediation as an option enter your detail on our 'contact us' or call our Family Team on 01473 232121.
